When someone asks me my age, I always have to think twice about it. Am I really 23? Already?
I have learned and lot in my life so far, so I thought it would be nice to share 23 things I have learned in 23 years in hopes that some of you take in these lessons and skip the whole learning them on your own part.
Save you some headache.
1. You can always start over.
It’s so easy for everything to feel like the end of the world. If something doesn’t work out the way you planned, or something doesn’t bring you the happiness you need, its ok.
Drop that crap and move onto the next big thing! Nothing is ever set in stone. We are resilient creatures, you can start over as many times as it takes to find what’s right and succeed in it.
2. It’s ok if you don’t talk to your friends all the time!
Life gets away from all of us! For the longest time, I tried, consciously to at least weekly message or call my best girlfriends. But after a while, it just became unrealistic for me. Between jobs, kids, and dinner, it’s too easy for weeks to fly by before you realized you haven’t checked on your buddies in a while. But if they’re your good friends, it won’t matter, they won’t guilt trip you for the time that has gone by. You will always pick right back up where you left off.
I’m lucky to have amazing friends who have never made me feel bad for the time that has gone by. They reach out just as much as I do. 💕
3. Learn to forgive without an apology.
If you wait for someone to say “I’m sorry” to forgive them, you might just be waiting for the rest of your life. Holding onto that animosity and hurt that someone has caused you, will eat you alive. Forgiveness will almost always bring you peace.
4. Not everyone will like you.
No matter how nice you are or helpful you are to people, some people, just. won’t. like you. Maybe they think you’re too nice, or too…whatever. They just won’t like you. So don’t think twice about it. Keep moving on, because…you’re a kick-ass person.
5. You have cruise control for a reason.
Ok, no shit. DO NOT SPEED.
You might shave off 1-2 minutes by speeding. It is not worth the ticket, the court cost, the community service hours, or the possibility of losing your driver’s license over. Just set your cruise control, turn on some music, and enjoy the ride.
6. Bad shit will happen; “When it rains it pours”
Typically, what I have seen so far, is when one bad thing happens, it is usually followed by a downpour of more bad shit. So just hunker down, and ride that wave, because it does end and you will see a light.
7. Practice positive self-talk.
Whether it be just in your head or out loud, positive self-talk can really shift your mindset! Nothing will ever turn out the way you want it if you don’t believe it first.
8. Invest now!
Investing now, at this age, can mean hundreds of thousands of dollars difference in your retirement account/for retirement. Whether you’re investing in your 401k, Roth IRA, the stock market, or real estate. Investing now in your future can be game changing!
Your 65-year-old self is thanking you.
9. You have no control over someone else’s choices or life.
As much as you want to save someone, or help someone, it is their life. They will always do and be what they want. Sometimes, you just have to let people fall, and learn their own lessons no matter how much you love them. You have to let it go.
10. Make time for you.
For me, it’s taking my sweet time doing my makeup while watching Crime Watch Daily. Whatever it is, every single day, do something that is for you that gives you some quiet time.
This will help you not lose your shit during your day. 🙂
11. Wear what you love!
When you put something on, if it doesn’t make you happy, donate it, sell it, or give it away! Life is too short to wear things you don’t love or to think twice about what people think about your outfit.
My favorite online place to shop, Red Dress Boutique!
12. Travel; because you can!
Traveling is not as expensive as you think. Especially if it’s something you prioritize, you can make it happen! If you saved all of those trips to the nail salon, about $80 a month ( that’s a cheaper set), which is $1,040 a year, you could buy a plane ticket to Peru or a one-way ticket to Egypt. You can do it!
Check out my thoughts on our India trip!
13. Use a white noise app to help you sleep.
I have never in my life slept as well as I have this past year. It has always taken me hours to fall asleep. My mind would wander all over the place and I would just toss and turn for hours. I downloaded an app called “Zen” and now I fall asleep within 10-15 minutes. I will never go back.
14. It’s ok to say “no.”
The sooner you start becoming comfortable saying, “no” the better. I use to never be able to say “no” to people.
If they wanted me to go grocery shopping with them I’d say “yes”, go out on a date? “ok”, whatever it was that I didn’t want to do, I just couldn’t say “no”. I am still not as great at this one as I’d like to be, but I am getting a lot better. lol
15. Be mindful of your credit score and build it up!
Do you know what your credit score is? Well, you should! You can’t do anything these days without a good credit score. Pay your bills on time and don’t be scared of credit cards. If you have good self-control, they can be your best friends.
16. Be proud of where you are now.
This can be a hard one since we are never where we are trying to be…Does that make sense?
We are always chasing a goal and trying to better ourselves and our careers, but just remember to regularly reflect and see how far you have come and be proud of what you have accomplished to this point. We will forever be chasing our future selves, so just don’t forget to appreciate who you are now.
17. Learn basic car maintenance.
As I said above, I watch Crime Watch Daily every day. So this girl knows not to let anyone “help” you change your tire on the side of the road, or you could find yourself in the back of a van. lmao…Also, you don’t want to have to wait on someone to help you change your tire, or have someone take advantage of you at the auto shops.
18. Buy groceries by the meal and not in bulk.
This helps me not overspend, overeat, and not waste food with it going bad in the fridge. Yes, going to the store every few days is not as convenient, but I never throw anything away anymore!
19. There are good honest men out there.
I found one and married him. 🙂
20. Not one person will believe in you like you will.
Other than your mother, you’re your biggest fan. So believe in yourself, because if you don’t believe in yourself, how can you expect anyone else to? Be consistent and persistent, and make yourself proud!
21. Be proactive, not reactive.
It’s so much easier to just take the extra time to prevent a mess than to not see it coming and have to clean it up. Apply this to your career, your personal life, and even when you set that glass near the edge of the counter knowing there’s an 80% chance of it falling…Just push it back. Easy as that.
22. Believe that you’re beautiful.
You will never be as young as you are today. Most likely, will never be as skinny as you are today. lol
Appreciate your body, your health, and your youth.
23. Treat people the way you want to be treated, not the way they treat you.
It’s so easy to want to treat others the way they treat you, but don’t ever fall for that. You know who you are and your standards. Don’t ever stoop to someone’s level for anything. Stay true to you boo.