5 Lessons I’ve Learned This Year – Happy 24th Birthday To Me!
Each year of life offers new challenges, new lessons and new opportunities. And by the end of it all you typically have new perspectives on your life.
That definitely isn’t any different for me this year.
I feel like this year I have grown more in who I am to my core than any other year in my life. I’ve grown in the way that I think, my confidence and my certainty in my thoughts and opinions.
I’ve never felt more comfortable, intentional and proud of who I am as a person in my entire life.
So that brings me to this post to share what my biggest lessons I’ve learned this year are that have seemingly transformed my mind, attitude and outlook on life.
1. Look around every day and be thankful to be alive and to have the life that you do.
Don’t just do this cavalierly.
Be very intentional when you look at your surroundings and allow yourself to truly feel thankful and happy and lucky to be on this earth.
This year I have met many people who have lost spouses and children. And it just serves as a reminder that our time is very limited on this earth. We aren’t all guaranteed to live until we are 80 and you will never know when it’s your time to go.
To add to this lesson, according to The Business Insider, the likely hood of you even being born is 1 in 400 Trillion!!
Can you even comprehend that? I cant. All I know is that we are all quite literally walking miracles.
If that doesn’t make you feel grateful I don’t know what will.
I also had the chance travel to India and see how they live there lives. And although yes they’re happy and positive about their lives. It reminded me to be even more grateful for the little things in my life. To not complain so much.
Be thankful for clean water. Thankful for AC. Thankful for the traffic that we call traffic.
You can read a more in depth post about my time in India here.
2. No one cares about you or what you’re doing.
I don’t mean to say this in a dick way, but it’s so true!
I have touched on this recently but this is something I have really embraced this year. Especially when it comes to what I write.
No-one spends all day thinking about what you are doing, not doing or saying. So do and say whatever you want.
One of the most important things to me when it comes to my blog, is to be 100% me. I want to write like I speak and I want you to feel like you’re talking to a friend.
Last year I wouldn’t have ever said “dick” in my post…Or the occasional shit.
But now, I do. Because well, that’s just me and I don’t feel the need to hide myself from anyone anymore. The people that don’t like the way I write won’t read my posts, and I’m ok with that.
I am comfortable now with who I am as a person. And I don’t feel the need to please all of these people that I’ve always thought cared so much. When in reality, they really don’t care at all.
What a relief right?? We are all free now!
3. Be very open with the people in your life
I feel like it is so necessary to share with those in your life they way they impact you and what you admire about them.
And I don’t mean cheap flattery. I mean don’t be scared to get a little deep with people.
It doesn’t have to be only friends and family. It also needs to be coworkers, the cashier you go to everyday at the grocery store, etc.
I think this military lifestyle has really brought this out of me because I almost view every person in my life as if I am never going to see them again.
Basically to me, when I leave someplace to move on to the next, it’s like that life dies there because I know that I may never have it again.
I think that makes it easier for me to be so open with people and emotional. I feel this extreme pull at my heart to tell anyone in my life what I think of them.
If they’re beautiful, I genuinely tell them they’re beautiful. If I am grateful for something they’ve done for me, I let them know from the depths of my heart how much I appreciate them.
Doing this makes it so much easier for me to leave because I know when I left I told everyone that I crossed paths with what they did for me and how I will remember them.
4. Cut the dead weight
At this age…I don’t have the energy for fake friends.
Honestly, I thought by this time in my life, with us all being adults and such, that people wouldn’t be fake friends with other people.
Why do people bother?
I think we all have someone in our lives that we know smiles to our faces and talks badly about us behind out backs. And this year, I have become the master at cutting those people off cold turkey. And you don’t owe anyone an explanation for it either.
I am no longer going to smile at people and converse with people who aren’t genuinely my friend or don’t have my best interest at heart.
If people want to pretend to be friends just to feel like a nice person, they can go do that with someone else.
Your time is for people you love and who love you back.
5. Make the best out of every situation / Trust where you are in life.
For those of you that don’t know, we were supposed to be done with the military in October. And we were thrilled about that.
Now, that’s not going to happen. And for a while I was having a lot of trouble feeling good about that decision.
(You can read here to find out some of the reasons we decided to stay in the Air Force.)
Especially when it came to what that meant for me and my career…
After throwing myself a pity party for a while, I slapped myself out of it and realized how many good things will come of this decision for myself and my family.
I never would have decided to go back to school if we wouldn’t have decided to stay in. I now have the opportunity to pursue a different career because we are staying in. These are just a few of the positives I found once I decided to stop being a turd and be positive about my situation (Career wise. I’ve always been grateful for the traveling aspect of it all).
When plans change (they always will), we need to stop dwelling on what won’t happen, stop dwelling on how your plans are changing, stop dwelling on what you feel like you’ll be missing out on.
You have to move on from those old ideas as quickly as possible and start looking for what new avenues you can take with this new path. Where could this take you? What can you do now that you couldn’t do before?
Be positive about where you are in life and where you’re going because there’s a good chance that you’re where someone wants to be.
24 years young!!
I am so thankfully to be turning 24 and to spend this year of my life in Europe! I have a feeling this could be one of the best years yet!